My grandfather used to tell a "story" about how when kids came home on their first vacation they thought their parents were so much smarter than they had been before they went off to college. My grandfather has been gone a long time but I was reminded of this story when I went out on fall travel this year. I long ago realized that both my parents are very smart and when I called them from the airport as I was leaving in September they reminded me to take a moment in my discussion each day for the families since this process is a tough one for them too. I took that to heart and tried to keep it in mind at every stop I made.
In a few days this year's applicants will find out if they have been Admitted, Not Admitted, or Waitlisted for the Class of 2013 and I know you all are waiting for the news with as much interest as your kids are. But getting the "answer" is not the end of the journey. The next couple of months will not be easy since there are many decisions still to be made. Before things get really complicated I thought it might be worthwhile to offer some of my thoughts on the subject...so these are my "two cents"...
Admitted: Obviously this is the answer that all our applicants want to see when the decisions go live. If this is the message that your student receives I hope you'll enjoy the moment. I certainly would were I in your place. Revel in it a bit, knowing that you can be very proud of your child. When I got my letter many years ago, I wasn’t certain who was more excited about it — my grandfather or me. When the dust settles, you'll need to help your child make some tough decisions. But first, for a few days, just enjoy it.
Not Admitted: To get this answer will be difficult and perhaps a bit frustrating, but at least you will know that the wait is over. The first question students ask if they call our office after they have not been admitted is “what did I do wrong?” It tears at my heart to hear this because I know that they didn’t do anything wrong and have done so many things right that it’s easy to lose count of them all. Sadly we will ultimately say "no" to an amazing bunch of applicants. But those that we don’t admit will find they have great opportunities elsewhere. For that brief moment it may seem like the “end of the world” to them (and fodder for yet another college essay) but we hope they will quickly realize that they will be offered a place at another great school.
Waitlisted: In some ways this one is the most difficult answer to get. Every student on the waitlist is one that we know would be really great on our campus but just don’t have room for. It’s not something we do lightly but it can be very tough for the student. They are in a sort of limbo. This one requires a couple of choices, first accepting an offer of admission elsewhere — which all who are waitlisted should do — then deciding whether or not to stay on the waitlist. Remaining on a waitlist can be hard, giving your heart fully to one school, while still hoping to get in elsewhere and with really long odds. Waitlist variation from year to year (in this decade, one year we took more than 100 students from our waitlist, but three other years we took no one) makes it even more difficult to make the decision. Your support of your children through this period will be invaluable.
Helping your kids through this process, no matter what answer they get, has been a huge task. You’ve gotten them this far and you are to be congratulated for that. With your help they are ready to enter college in the fall and just in case they forget to tell you…thanks for all you’ve done!
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or rejected for that matter...
Posted by: Anonymous on March 12, 2009
good luck to all!
-Jamo
Posted by: Jamo on March 12, 2009
Well, I'm already waitlisted at Caltech. Probably should take myself off that list. At least 3/14 won't feel as bad as I thought it might.
Posted by: Wow on March 12, 2009
Posted by: Navdeep ('13?) on March 12, 2009
I am an undergraduate applicant. I just wanted to say thank you for using "Not Admitted". The choice of word is pretty subtle, but it makes a huge difference. "Rejected" can be pretty downgrading for a youngster like me, with all his/her hopes on joining a school as good as MIT. It carries the connotation that "You are not good enough for us".
So once again, THANK YOU for the subtle, yet significant, choice of word.
Love you all, and all the best to everyone.
Posted by: aMIT (I got MIT in my name) on March 12, 2009
i love fun and i do it, no limitations for fun, decision date is not a limit for my fun. i do fun before, within these few days, and after these few days. i will never let anything disturb my fun, don't ever think decision date distress my fun.
there is Matt, there is Beaver and there's an old mom who says: i never regret to make mistakes
all of them are in 13 going on 30
there's love in violet, there's v in love, v in beaver and v in institvte
also there's v in fvn
Posted by: comboy on March 12, 2009
Greatly appreciate your post. I do not too know too many colleges around the world that take this much effort to make the applicants, and even their parents, comfortable. Your post is much needed not only for the students, but the parents as well!
Thanks a lot. And all the best to all prospective '13ers. I am sure you will all do well in all your endeavours.
Parent
Posted by: Parent of prospective '13 on March 12, 2009
I don't want to spoil the anticipatory mood, and I don't want to come across as whining or blaming MIT for my troubles. However, I feel the need to point out that this was not true in my case--I was only accepted to one school, my so-called 'safety school', the one application into which I put almost no work at all. At that school, my grades and motivation have been at an all-time low. My grades are so low, in fact, that I have been unable to transfer to a school that would be more challenging and appropriate for me. It's a pretty lousy deal.
Anyway, good luck to all the Class of '13 hopefuls; I hope none of you find yourself in my situation. =)
Posted by: Not Admitted '11 on March 12, 2009
So I have high hopes for MIT. But this post makes the whole mood lighter
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Posted by: '13? on March 12, 2009
alias not_admitted='rejected'
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Posted by: Parent EA13 on March 12, 2009
@Not Admitted '11: Hope you are able to figure out the right path out of your present situation. Good Luck buddy!
Posted by: Dhvanit on March 12, 2009
Posted by: correa on March 12, 2009
But what matters to us is the opportunity we had to LEAVE this experience.
Good luck to ALL!
Posted by: mariana on March 12, 2009
I know what you are going through. As Kim said, it's not a big deal at all.
Take this opportunity to get support and love from your family and everything will go beautifully.
No biggy! Just a decision right?
Posted by: Class of '12 on March 12, 2009
what an absurd.
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Posted by: Pranav on March 12, 2009
I like that. If the wave doesn't break down to "Admitted," let it not break down at all.
Posted by: 0 on March 12, 2009
Posted by: Pranav on March 12, 2009
The boundary conditions suggest that there are no boundary conditions. So the wave shall never break down. Haha!
Posted by: Pranav on March 12, 2009
Thanks for the post, Kim!
Posted by: Ahana on March 12, 2009
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Posted by: Parent '13 on March 12, 2009
MIT: Must Include Trym
Posted by: trym on March 12, 2009
c'est la vie =/
think about all the late nights and work that you didn't have to do. there's many MIT students who wish they didn't attend -- in a way you won the admissions game.
Posted by: 0 on March 12, 2009
The decision basically depends on the application. The wave function representing the decision exists right now and MiT knows it's value. One such function exists for each and every one of us. But if 'X' is waitlisted, the function shall oscillate much more rapidly and it would be relatively difficult to predict it's position as it would then 'depend' on some other function. Thus, neither MiT nor 'X' shall be able to do anything about it; which ,I feel, is nearer to Erwin's Cat. So, relatively, I'd feel much much more alike Erwin's Cat if I'm waitlisted.
Go cats! Yipee!
Posted by: Pranav on March 12, 2009
My sadness is that MIT does not increase their capacity to grow with the rest of the world, as it seems that you students are really stepping it up and yet MIT's class size remains unchanged. No matter the outcome, congratulations to all.
Posted by: EC'83 on March 12, 2009
@aMIT - I'm glad that quite a few bloggers here have used "Not Admitted". It's been said several times that out of a single applicant pool they could admit several rounds of people who are perfectly qualified.
@EC '83 - While I think it'd be great if MIT could admit every qualified applicant, I think such a huge class size would take away from the community here. I don't think MIT would have the same feel if it was twice as big.
Posted by: Piper '12 on March 12, 2009
Of course I respect that the class size is what it is for a variety of good reasons. At the same time, there are far more equally qualified applicants than they can accept each year, and as such the selection process seems to be factoring in a lot of intangibles that leaves one scratching one's head sometimes.
Posted by: EC'83 on March 12, 2009
Posted by: tyto on March 12, 2009
Please admit me.
Thanks!
Posted by: waiting for Godot on March 12, 2009
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Posted by: '13 hopeful on March 12, 2009
The title does say that the post is for the families of applicants....
Posted by: musicman on March 12, 2009
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Posted by: Anonymous on March 12, 2009
Any suggestions?
Posted by: Dan on March 12, 2009
I don't think they'll consider the number of time you were absent... It doesn't usually show up on the transcript... at least not on mine.. i don't know about other countries' transcripts format.. But it shouldn't
Posted by: Shahla on March 12, 2009
Look at being admitted as winning the lottery; it would be really really awesome if you did, but there are still many places where you could get a great education and college experience (and there's MIT grad school).
Posted by: Kmills on March 12, 2009
Posted by: Shahla on March 12, 2009
The next few months will be the only times and think about MIT with happiness.
seriously
Posted by: 2012 on March 12, 2009
Regardless of what will happen, I have enjoyed being here online with admitted mit students and staffers like you to share our/your thoughts as well as passion for getting into this most open and great college...As far as I know, there is no second college which is doing exactly what you are doing for the admission process. This blog site connects each and every one of us with the dreams we have sought for pursuing our college life at mit.
Posted by: Π=3.1415926... on March 13, 2009
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Posted by: Joey on March 13, 2009
I have to agree with you though, being waitlisted has to have the ultimate pain to it - after being told you have to have more stress (defer), you have to suffer it AGAIN. Best of luck, though.
Posted by: Chris on March 13, 2009
i'm not very tall, and i never asked you about counselor recommendations. i'm not in Hawaii or Miami. i never see any of my grandfathers. i have a smart mom and i have a hope: i don't want to believe that last september was the last time i could hold my grandmom's fingers. she said, take care
Posted by: comboy on March 13, 2009
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Posted by: EA13 on March 13, 2009
But if you let one adversity get you down permanently, you'll never succeed. So don't do that :D
Posted by: Piper '12 on March 13, 2009
Next year I want to applicate for MIT. I'am from Poland. I am a little bit afraid about my English. I have been learning English for 8 years, but I do not use it at home. Now I have extended curriculum. I hope, that my results from SAT and TOEFL will be good enough for MIT. It's really hard to be only one person from whole school, who doesn't want to go to polish college...
I am 17 years old and I am doing undergraduate program from math and physic (including all of math analysis - coefficients, integrals etc.). I take a part in Olypmics in physic and astronomy. I am interested in art, I attend in art competitons and I have really nice results (for example 1st prize in reproduction of Stanislaw Wyspianski).
I hope that next year I'll get "admitted" decision
Good luck for '13
Posted by: Jola on March 13, 2009
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Posted by: N on March 13, 2009
I just wanted to say that it's fairly mean to keep us in suspense like this.
I'd like to know now whether my next four years will be spent in tech-Nirvana, or whether I'll be forced into becoming merely a side-line MIT fangirl, chasing down nerds in the Boston cold just to ask if someone will LaPlace transforms with me.
So needless to say.....I don't think my parents are the ones who need help here.
Love,
Caitlin
Posted by: Caitlin on March 13, 2009
Good luck '13 hopefuls - what a way to celebrate/learn to hate Einstein's birthday! I am celebrating his birthday with the infamous SAT - easy as pi - (I hope, anyways...)!
As Einstein said, "The only reason for time is so that everything doesn't happen at once." Remember that; dwell in the suspense and realize that regardless what happens, you worked to your potential and things happen for a reason!! (Reminder: I need someone to tell me THESE WORDS in a year when I am in your shoes...!)
GOOD LUCK EVERYONE!
( & Remember to thank your parents!)
Posted by: THIS WILL BE ME =) on March 13, 2009
I'm taking the SATs tomorrow too. What a way to spend Pi Day, huh? 3.1415926535!
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Good luck to all who are waiting for decisions. I wish you the best. Always remember that if you were even considering applying to MIT you must be pretty smart!
Posted by: Hopeful "14 on March 13, 2009
If the average student sends out 10 applications (which is pretty common at my high school), there is a pool of applicants 10x larger than the actual amount of students. In the ideal system, 9 out of every 10 applications is denied, so that each student gets accepted at just one school. Each student then attends that school.
Anyway, the idea is that the more applications we send out, the lower the average acceptance rate for every school. The application system has almost become a game. We believe the more applications we send out, the higher the chances of acceptance from at least one good school. It's true to an extent, we who send out lots of apps have an advantage over our peers who send out fewer apps. Unfortunately, The number of spaces available at each school does not increase with the number of applications they receive.
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On a side note, the anxiety is starting to get to me :(. Could you guys consider releasing all those shiny decisions at 1:59 AM instead of PM?
Posted by: Michael on March 13, 2009
We've completed our work for now and and all that is left is for you to wait (patiently?) for tomorrow's news. No matter what answer you get tomorrow, I hope you will each realize that you have been a valued part of our lives this year in the admissions office and you make what we do each day worthwhile.
Posted by: Kim '86 on March 13, 2009
I appreciate all the work you along with the admission group have done... thank you very much... I can't wait to get the results tomorrow... hopefully something good...
Posted by: Shahla on March 13, 2009
Sorry, no such luck on the patient part, especially for us EA deferrals.
Posted by: Matt A. on March 13, 2009
Posted by: John on March 14, 2009
w in wait and cow
vv in ocvv
now choose one:
cow
ocw
Posted by: comboy on March 14, 2009
wow, i told you my mom is smart. she can not calculate the area of a circle in mathematical ways, she can celebrate pi day.
two phone-calls between me and my family in one day, pi day, great day.
she kissed me through phone-lines and i did the same thing. i do it the same way, never i can know how moms do in such warm way.
it's like the finishing pats a mother gives the child's hair after she's got it combed and brushed - mark twain
Posted by: comboy on March 14, 2009
Before anything, i wannat appreciate all the work the adm. group has done... thank you...
Posted by: Shahla on March 14, 2009
but a rejection( or the euphemism: Not Admitted) surely is not the end of the world and should not be thought of as such...
I would certainly not let any institution decide what i am worth and certainly not on the basis of 500 word essays and laundry lists of achievements...
therefore, i would not be too bothered by a rejection.....
Anyway, Best of Luck everybody....
Posted by: Anonymous on March 14, 2009
now if you don't feel good after that entering password, here's what you can do with numbers
http://www.google.com/intl/en/logos/mothers_day08.gif
change 8 with different numbers and see some match, also wait till May 10 when you can use 9.
mom's day
let me give you another link from my firefox tabs
another tab
Posted by: comboy on March 14, 2009
I hope you did well on the SATs, too. Is the suspense, the anxiety, and the stress of what the next year holds driving you into a deep hole of abyss? I just keep thinking that at the end of that hole, there has to be a light somewhere! Whether or not that light is MIT or not admissions must decide; but I am fairly confident that that decision will put me where I was meant to be (where that is, I am not certain; only time will tell).
Now we just have to work hard and be patient 364 days...
Best of luck to you in your future, as well!
=)
Posted by: THIS WILL BE ME =) on March 14, 2009
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