Two Sides Of The Coin… For Us Too by Ben Jones
Watching the people who didn't get in receive their letters is as heartbreaking for me as any acceptance letter is happy.
I posted a version of this as a comment in the last thread, but decided to blog it here as a real entry so that more folks would see it.
I’ve been a bit sad this week, and many of you have been wondering why: “you’ve finished selecting the class, man – you should be happy, you should go celebrate!”
Well, it’s like this…
As readers, we connect with people when we read their applications. We imagine them coming to MIT, finding their niche, doing wonderful things – sometimes we even start to look forward to bumping into them on the Infinite and watching them grow.
Sometimes those people get in. More often (and truly, mostly because of class size and rarely because they’re not qualified), they don’t get in. When you put your heart into writing the summary of someone’s potential and then lobby hard for him/her in committee, it hurts like hell when he/she doesn’t make it.
In no way am I comparing my feelings to those of a rejected applicant – I know that my feelings do not compare. But at the same time, I don’t want you to think we’re just happy for the people who got in and that’s it. Watching the people who didn’t get in receive their letters is as heartbreaking for me as any acceptance letter is happy.
And that’s not something I would say just for the sake of saying it.
Don’t get me wrong – I am *very* happy for the folks who made it in. They help to balance the other side of the coin. I just want you all to know that all of your decisions affect us, not just the happy ones. For what it’s worth.